Need all your help!
I hate change because of having to move so many times & talk about the drama and mental and physical. Any suggestions in facing what I fear the most?.Though we all say we have Faith Stopping the thoughts are sometimes almost impossible besides avoiding reality.
Keeping my mind and hands busy painting and hanging with my grandchildren( doing what I love most ) usually does the trick. I practice what I preach (change the channel in my mind). Practicing what we preach sometimes Eludes us. We forget the words we spoke to someone else in a crisis. Thats why getting still and quiet for a brief time to acknowledge what it is I fear the most & determining if this fear can be approached in a different way. Exploring the challenges from the past (though I can even have seizures when trying to approach my past) I durect my thoughts to ACCOMPLISHMENTS..I believe we store these moments for Simple Reminders to remind us of the hard work and the time it took to Accomplish such a goal. Yet there are Goals we achieved that were so awesome at the time our mind emediately says “I PRAY I NEVER GO THROUGH THAT AGAIN!”
and so those achievements are not Inspiring enough to be up front in the memories that flash before us when seeking references to Battles..(battle niw theres a word we revoke emediately). And so the very memories needed for encouragement are not brought firward because we REJECTED THEM AND BURIED THEM BECAUSE THEY WE SO HARD..TGEY WERE EXCRUCIATING .THEY PAINED US SO MUCH. Just like labor pains or a death or illness to you or soneone close is not something you want to Re- EXPERIENCE. RIGHT?!?😬😕😱
BUT
The truth is I have found that if we cannot visit these memories with out falling to peices We have not gotten through.gotten over or honestly dealt with these things. Sure no one wants to bring pain or negativity into thier exsistance in the now but what are we Accomplishing if we cannot see that WE OVER CAME…WE GOT THROUGH..WE ARE WHO WE ARE BECAUSE TODAY IS A NEW DAY.WE ARE ALIVE. WE HAVE GIFTS TO OPEN AND CHALLENGES TO FACE.TO GET THROUGH TO GET OVER.
SO WHEN YOU ARE FACED WITH A LIFE ALTERING CHANGE OR FEAR OR CHALLENGE. LOOK FOR YOUR BIGGEST SUCCESS STORIES IN YOUR FAILURES.You may find that where you may have failed or been told you failed .YOU ALSO SUCCEEDED YOU ACCOMPLISHED YOUR GREATEST ACHIEVEMENTS
BY GETTING OVER..GETTING THROUGH..
TAKE A MOMENT AND SERIOUSLY THANKYOURSELF FOR NOT GIVING UP. FOR LIVING LIFE ONE MORE DAY ONE MORE MINUTE ONE MORE YEAR. WHEN LIFE LOOKED LIKE IT WAS HELL ON EARTH. YOU SURVIVED…
We can get caught up in thinking about what others accomplishments look like and write off the EXTRAORDINARY ACOMPLISHMENTS WE OURSELVES HAVE SITTING IN OUR BOOK OF MEMORIES …THE TRUTH IS THE BIGGER & THE LONGER THE STRUGGLE IS. IS THE LIFE CHANGING MOMENTS AND MARKERS IN LIFE THAT MANY CHOOSE TO NEVER ACKWOLEDGE BECAUSE OF THE SHAME WE EXPERIENCED. THOSE ARE THE TRUE HEROIC STORIES THAT NEED TO BE SHARED AND REMIND YOURSELF AND OTHERS.. WE ALL ARE WORTHY AND WE ALL ARE HEROS..
SO MY DEAR FRIENDS..WHAT ARE YOU AVOIDING? WHAT DO YOU FEAR? WHY? RIGHT AS I THINK THIS IM REMINDED OF ALL THE MIRACLES IN MY LIFE COVER ME IN A SHADOW OF PROTECTION. LIKE ANGELS HOVERING ALL AROUND ME. I CHOOSE TO THINK OF MY SO CALLED FAILURES AND TRAUMAS AS BLESSINGS .
YES ONE BY ONE AS A LOOK BACK AT EACH ONE I AM REMINDED IM HERE NOW..I GOT THROUGH THAT AND IM HAPPY..IM SO VERY GRATEFUL IM STILL ALIVE..IM STILL WORTHY..AND IM GETTING EXCITED BECAUSE ANOTHER MIRACLE IS GONNA TAKE PLACE…AS I THINK AND SAY THIS WITH EXCITEMENT FEAR HAS NO PLACE.. IT TRUELY IS A MIND SET..HOW YOU VIEW YOUR LIFE YOUR CHALLENGES YOUR LIKES AND DISLIKES ARE REALLY WITH OUT A DOUBT ALL YOURS..
IN other words so many times we here or see posters or words of supposed encouragement and you might even memorize a jingke to go with it a a line in a song or movie.yet it never clicks until one day it all makes since…Like “IF YOU THINK YOU CAN OR CANT, YOUR RIGHT!”..
We repeat things over and over so we dont forget them so thinkibg not to do something over and over still brings it in for review are you gonna cry over a thought are you gonna act like it isnt there or are you gonna take control of the thought? It is your thought after all and what you do with it IS COMPLETELY UP TO YOU… Say that again…and again and again… Ok so just as you repeat things like fears over and over in your mind are you trying to remind yourself that your AFRAID..
what is it that you fear? Why are those memories bad?How can you make them good? BY TAKING THE TIME TO FEEL AND DEAL …We are taught since birth theres only 2 reasons to cry..hunger and pain. god given… But through out life we are directed to Feelings instead of the facts..(change the things i can) As a child you yell out Mom (parent or guardian) Im hungry im thirsty .i hurt ..i need help! Yet we are never told (not these days) Do something about it.We are encoraged to always seek for someone to help us. Now dont get me wrong Im a firm believer in helping others and the buddy system. But today buddy systems are like Brand names..If you aint this or that you cant join your different so your rejected. So you begin to deny your own strengths and values. If your not a team your nobody.
Everything you believe you repeat…The things you dont believe your taught to reject..If you are rejected you loose your beliefs in yourself or you REPEAT things you must believe in them because you are repeating them to remember.
YOUR THOUGHTS ARE .. So if your thinking you will never do such and such like say.. Ill never be great at this…emediately if you have been training your thoughts to be your own…ASK WHY?
after answering why you may find yourself wrestling with facts you know..like BUT ITS POSSIBLE..OR DAMED IF I WONT TRY..OR IF SO AND SO CAN DO IT SO CAN I…IF THERES A WILL THERES A WAY…
You are listening to YOU all the time…Let me say that again…YOU ARE ALWAYS LISTENING TO YOU….
ON PURPOSE- THINK YOU CAN. SAY words that encorage your SELF…. Get in the HABIT OF REPEATING WORDS THAT ARE ALWAYS OPEN FOR MORE ENCOURAGING WORDS..DONT SAY THINGS TO YOURSELF YOU WOULDN’T SAY TO A LOVED ONE.. CREATING YOUR WORLD SHOUKD BE FUN AND EXCITING..BUT KNOWING WHAT YOU LIKE AND ENJOY AND DOING JUST THAT SHOULD KEEP YOU EXCITED TO LIVE LIFE ON PURPOSE..YOUR PURPOSE..
SUM IT UP.. YOU CAN THINK 1 HUNDRED THOUGHTS BUT DO NOT REPEAT NOT EVEN A WORD IF YOU DONT WANT IT REPEATED IN YOYR SUBCONCIOUS MIND..IN ITHER WORDS..CHANGE THE CHANNEL OF YOUR MIND TO WHAT YOU DO WANT..LIKE..LOVE..THINK ON THESE THINGS….
STOP ASKING OTHERS TO CHANGE YOUR CHANNEL(MIND) WHEN YOU CLEARLY DO NOT WANT SOMETHING SAY FROM A TELEMARKETER, WHY WOULD YOU SIT AND LISTEN TO THEM ..MANY DO AND THEN SAY NO THANKYOU..WHAT A WASTE OF TIME AND ENERGY… ARE YOU GETTING THE PICTURE HERE YET? DONT BE AROUND..OTHERS YOU HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON WITH..ITS A FILLER…FILL YOUR LIFE .MIND.EYES.HEART.BODY WITH WHAT YOU DO LOVE.DO WANT..EVEN IF ITS JUST PAINTING THE WORDS ON A LRGE CANVAS AND POSTING YOUR POSITIVE WORDS RIGHT THERE LARGE ON YOUR LIVING ROOM WALL..MAYBE ANOTHER AT WORK..PRINT IT ON A COFFEE CUP OR SHOWER CURTAIN….YOUR LIFE ..YOYR WORDS..YOUR THOUGHTS YOUR ACTIONS..ALL BECOME YOUR REALITY… JUST BE PATIENT…AND VERY FAST IN FIRGIVING AND LETTING GO…IT TAKES 9 MINTHS TO GIVE BIRTH TO A CHILD..9 LONG MONTHS..DAYS HOURS WEEKS MINUTES TO BECOME ONE OF THE GREATEST GIFTS IN LIFE..MOTHER & CHILD…BOTH ARE EXTRAORDINARY GIFTS FROM GOD .THE UNIVERSE..HIGHER POWER ECT…GIVE YOURSELF THE SAME GIFT OF TIME..
HERES AN EXERCISECYOU CAN DO TO HELP ACHIEVE A GOAL…
EVERY DAY WRITE A POSITIVE WORD A HOPE AHAPPY JOYFUL TIME ECT. FOLD IT AND PUT INTO A GLASS JAR.FOLD IT TIGHTLY..WHEN IT IS FULL..BEGIN TO TAKE OUT AND READ ONE EVERYDAY.. THATS HOW LONG IT WILL TAKE FOR A HABIT TO BE MADE. A WIN WIN …FEEL THE FEAR AND JUST DO IT…OVER AND OVER. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU CAN DO IS BECOME YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND..LOTS OF LOVE ..Ms Tammy
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